Not unexpected.

[jebbypal]

Sooo, my sunday morning was rudely derailed this week. Collect call from number that id'ed as "Tulsa County She"....Sigh. NOt sure if it's due to being out of state or having comcast landline, but apparently I'm not set up to automatically accept collect calls so I had to automatically start a 25$ account to even accept it.

If he's to be believed, dear brother got picked up back in september so he already knew when he called in November (to ask if I'd drive up and pick him and gf up and ferry them to spend the day with us....umm, no) that he'd be back in jail. *rolls eyes* And yes, it's new drug charges in addition to the bench warrants on probation violations and his fines from all his previous stints.

So after bsing for a bit and pretending to be interested in the grandma's death, he gets around to the real reason he called was to ask a) would I be willing to call and harrass people that owe him money, and if not b) would I send him money as his late christmas gift so that he can buy things in the jail commissary. Oh, and would I be sure to forward any mail he sends to my mother as he's convinced that my dad is forcing her to not interact with him. And btw, what's our other grandmother's number.

*head desk*

Just really. I was frankly a little flabbergasted so I didn't tear into him then. Though if he calls back wondering where his money is, I won't hold back. Because seriously, I don't hear from you for over 2 years, the parents don't hear from you for over a year (and this is after the last time we saw each other you had the temerity to lecture me about how often I got home to see my sick mother), and I'm supposed to run out to arrange a money order so you can once again buy a toothbrush and toilet paper?

My dad and I are in agreement (and even mom sounds on board) that apparently jail's never been uncomfortable enough for him to want to avoid it. So, maybe if he can't buy everything he wants when he wants it, he'll start to think in the future that perhaps gainful employment is more important than his druggie friends. Because god knows that the only time family is more important than druggie convict friends is when they can't/won't see him and give him money when he's in jail.

Also, I fully intend to read every post card he sends and throw them in the trash if all they are is asking mother and grandmother for money.

Though I am amazed he knows my address down pat when he doesn't have access to a cell phone and I've never received mail from him at this address. Mom thinks he just looked it up online, and possible, but it's not like my name is uncommon, or that I have freely available online.


Ah well, another winter that we know he's alive, warm, and getting fed

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[fleshlycherry]

Ugh. I'm sorry *hugs*

[jebbypal]

Thanks, hon. Really, after he's been out of contact for almost 2 years, definitely not a surprise. Just between that and then the call home to talk to mom about it, not a fun day. I want to shake her through the phone when she gets self-blamey for his problems.